In Memoriam

My Red shoes...wear them every work day

I write this post as a premature “RIP” to any woman’s complacency with not knowing her HIV status.

Not just today, but every day, we should make it a priority to ask ourselves and any one with whom we are or might be sexually intimate if they know what his/her status is.

People say ignorance is bliss, but that’s not so when you are playing Russian roulette with your life, or the lives of anyone one you might lay down with, or the lives of the children you might one day hope to bear.

When you look up the infection rate for African American women, the statistics are staggering.  For some reason, they aren’t always enough to move people. So what the CDC says:

                   At some point in their lifetimes, an estimated 1 in 16 black men and 1 in 32 black women will be diagnosed with HIV infection.


                  In 2009, black women accounted for 30% of the estimated new HIV infections among all blacks. Most (85%) black women with HIV acquired HIV              through heterosexual sex. The estimated rate of new HIV infections for black women was more than 15 times as high as the rate for white women, and more than three times as high as that of Latina women.

People tend to get comfortable in “well, that won’t happen to me” or  “that won’t and hasn’t happened to anyone I know”.

Whose to say it hasn’t? Everyone who is sick doesn’t look sick…and the only real way to know, is to know.


Know you status. Make sure anyone you lie down with knows THEIR status. We have to protect ourselves.
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